Dollie Delaney

My daughter and I discovered a small local cemetery last weekend while we were out and about and should have been doing other things.  We were exploring for only a few minutes when we realized that it was very old, and that there was a disproportionate amount of infant graves nestled among the others.  Little Dollie Delaney touched the world in 1892 and spent a mere nine days with her parents before leaving as quickly as she came.  The wound of her passing must have been enormous, and surely one that never healed.  Perhaps the biggest challenge was convincing people that she existed, for I’m guessing she lived an entire lifetime in her parent’s eyes.   A giant hug for my daughter that day, for feeling the great sadness in the loss of a child, and hopefully a lesson learned that although our time on earth is fleeting, it is important to know that everyone leaves a mark and that they mattered.


  1. I have a similar grave next to my house, I believe it is a private one. There were so many infants. It was just awful. Luckily, they have technology and advanced medicine today that can lengthen and even save their lives. Lives that couldn’t be saved in earlier times. Beautifully written!*


  2. Very thoughtful post. We all need to remember that every life is precious. Every life has meaning. Thanks for reminding us of that. If we are saddened by the early deaths of these children how much more should we be moved to action knowing that thousands of children in the third world are dying unnecessarily each day from the world’s neglect. I am hoping more people will take the holiday season – whether Christian, Jewish, Muslim or other – to spend less on ourselves (our own) and contribute to the needs of the world. Loved the simple picture of flower in hand.


  3. Lovely post Elisa.

    I am using USB Wireless Internet Stick until December Sunday the 9th, 2012. Reason to it is that we sold our old home after living there 19 years and now we are living in a temporary home before moving to our new home. The connection is not working perfectly and the connection goes off from time to time. I hope that You understand why comments are short until that day I mentioned above. Thank you for your patience and understanding.


  4. Yes , a lovely post indeed, Elisa. It brought to mind an old Chinese poem, written by Po Chu-i, and translated by Arthur Waley, as ‘Remembering Golden Bells’….it includes the following lines:

    “There came a day—they suddenly took her from me;
    Her soul’s shadow wandered I know not where.”

    …and ends…

    “At last, by thinking of the time before she was born,
    By thought and reason I drove the pain away.
    Since my heart forgot her, many days have passed
    And three times winter has changed to spring.
    This morning, for a little, the old grief came back,
    Because, in the road, I met her foster-nurse.”

    And thanks for stopping by, and liking my post :).



    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing “Remembering Golden Bells.” I read it three times and found it more lovely each time. It’s really very touching.
      (and, your welcome!)


  5. You are truly a caring parent. If we are honest, it is a portion of what motivates us every day to help our children – nurturing their lives no matter how long we have together, and hoping it was enough. She did live a lifetime in her parents’ eyes, even if they forever wished for more.


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